Chapter 5: "I appreciate you for..."

I didn't use "I'm getting triggered" much last week, because thankfully I didn't often feel triggered. There was one time that I said "I'm having trouble thinking because I'm flooded with emotion right now," and it led to a good conversation.

Now for Chapter 5!

• I appreciate you for telling me what you want.
• I appreciate you for doing the dishes last night.
• I appreciate you for the way you're looking at me right now.
• I appreciate you for getting your term project done a week before the deadline.
• I appreciate you for saying you'll get into treatment for your alcoholism.

Appreciations should be specific, and can be for behaviors (what the other person did, said, or didn't do) or for qualities (who the other person is).

The author notes that appreciation is as good for the appreciator as for the appreciated: "Appreciating others gets you in the habit of noticing more and more things to appreciate, thus leading to an overal attitude of gratitude for your life. Developing this attitude will create a sort of backdrop of positive feelings from which other feelings come and go."