Chapter 6: "I hear you, and I have a different perspective"

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Top-of-chapter examples:

• I hear that you want to spend the weekend with your parents, and I'd prefer that we spend a romantic weekend alone.
• I hear you saying you want to get a new truck, and I'm afraid we won't be able to make the payments.
• I hear that you want to start being sexually open to other lovers, and I still want to be monogamous.
• I hear you saying you think we should forbid Suzie from going out with boys until she is sixteen, and I'm afraid she'll just do it behind our backs.

This key phrase is about holding differences, which the author says helps build mutual trust: "it builds self-trust because you're no longer assuming that you'll lose yourself if you become open to the other's views; and it helps others trust you because they can sense that while you're really showing up for yourself, you care about their views as well."