Chapter 4: "I'm getting triggered"

I'm happy to report that I did indeed clear some feelings last week. :-)

Now on to Chapter 4!

• "What you just said is triggering a reaction."
• "I notice I'm having a reaction."
• "I'm starting to get defensive."
• "I think I'm getting a button pushed."
• "I'm getting my 'not good enough' button pushed."
• "I'm getting triggered."

The author mentions that using this phrase can "signal to the other partner a level of self-awareness that tends to help him feel safer." And that "noticing and revealing your reaction can also foster self-acceptance."