Examples from the top of the chapter:
- "I want to hear your feelings about what I'm saying."
- "I want to have a talk with you about something I've had on my mind."
- "I want to feel your arms around me."
- "I want you to come with me to the store."
- "I want you to just listen and not say anything until I'm finished."
I've only just started the chapter, but I was struck by this sentence in the first paragraph:
"If you'd like more intimacy in your life, it's good to express your wants frequently and shamelessly."
Go!
And like she points out in "Getting Real," the more frequently we express our wants, the less attached we become to actually getting what we want each time. If we only express wants when they feel huge and significant, we give our wants a lot of weight and it feels really risky to express them. When we can express our wants often, we keep the energy moving. We become more flexible and resilient during the times we don't get what we want, while at the same time increasing the chances that we actually WILL get it.
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